Why shyness is different from introversion

Shyness is often confused with being an introvert. It's not that strange, because both introverts and shy people do not like to get all the attention. But there are also clear differences between the two.

"Why are you so shy?" is something you may have been asked as an introvert. Your calm disposition and your preference for not coming to the fore may give some people the impression that you are indeed shy. However, it's important to distinguish between introversion and shyness, as it is not the same.

Introversion (and extraversion) is a personality trait that makes you prefer smaller groups of people and makes you need some alone time to recharge. You have no problem standing in front of larger groups, although it does cost you quite a bit of energy. However, as long as you do this your way, you can do it without a lot of problems.

Introversion is largely innate and linked to the way your brain works. As an introvert, you are more sensitive to dopamine, or external stimuli. Therefore, you prefer to be alone from time to time.

Negative experience

This is different for shy people. Shyness is something that often arises after a negative social experience. This has to do with disapproval and the opinion of other people, which has created a kind of fear. This fear emerges in moments similar to that previous negative experience. So, unlike introversion, shyness is not innate. This also means you can grow over shyness.

If we look at this from the perspective of science, shyness is a whole other dimension. Shyness is part of the personality trait emotional stability, while introversion is a separate dimension. You can measure both by taking a Big Five test.

Of course, you may be both introverted and shy. But there are also shy extroverts, which is perhaps even more difficult because they have a great need for social contact while not daring to get into contact with others.

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